How acceptable is it to ask for an expensive gift?
My boyfriend of just a couple of months asked whether I wanted to let him choose my gift for Xmas or whether I would prefer to choose it myself. I gave him the impression that I trusted his taste and that he should get me whatever he wants. But in all honesty, I am hoping that he gets some jewellery. I believe that boyfriends should get their girlfriends that type of gift for Xmas, but I don't know if he thinks the same way. How can I tell him that I want jewels or drop subtle hints without seeming shallow? After all, it is not the cheapest gift I could ask for.
Penny
Well Penny, it could be that you have already blown your opportunity to let him know. If you are not sure that you trust his taste, you made a mistake telling him that you do. Now you want to manipulate him, right? You can always try going shopping with him and pointing out things you like in shops windows, or browse through magazines asking his opinion on whether he thinks they're pretty too. If you discover his taste is not yours, then I guess you won't want him choosing your Xmas goodies.
As you haven't been in this relationship very long, it is a bit much to ask if you expect expensive gifts. Are you willing to buy him a costly present in return? You might want to reflect on what your expectations of this guy are and whether they're realistic.
Why don't you give the guy a break and wait and see what happens? You might be pleasantly surprised and if not, there's always next year by which time you will either have parted ways, or he'll know your tastes much better. Remember that the most meaningful gifts we are able to give are our time and attention. If they translate into jewellery or other expensive gifts - how fantastic for you. But try not to discard the attributes that give your relationship real value.
